All the Answers are Within You

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Dear Friend,

How much do you trust other people? Now how much do you trust yourself? Difficult questions, perhaps. Here’s an easier one. Have you ever been in a situation where you had a hard time making a choice because you were afraid of making the wrong one? What did you do about that? Ask for advice? Research your question on Google? (We’ve all done this I’m sure) Or maybe you opted to do nothing in lieu of taking action (which is still a decision). It can be rough but I received a message some time ago that helps me a lot. Maybe it’ll help you?

All the answers are within me.

I have a tendency to get input from friends, family, sometimes even strangers, when I have a tough choice to make. It’s useful for me to hear multiple points of view. But at the end of the day, I know that only I can make the call. It is my life, and so it is my responsibility. When I first learned of this … idea that all the answers are within me, I had a hard time accepting that. How could the answers be in me? If they are, then why do I feel so uncertain and scared? True to this adage, as I thought about it more and more, the answer presented itself. I would feel uncertain and scared, because I didn’t trust myself. I didn’t give myself any credit that I had any sort of wisdom of my own. As a mid-20-something-year-old, I just assumed that I was too young to know anything significant about life. But thinking about it, it makes so much sense! Who knows you better than you? Even your parents, who may have been around from the beginning and never left, aren’t around you all the time. And as we get older, we begin to lead our own lives without them. And when that happens, we change. We are experts on ourselves, so why wouldn’t we have answers within us?

The next issue, for me anyway, was the “all” part. Surely I don’t have all the answers for everything? The way I see it now, no not everything everywhere for everyone every time. However, everything that matters to me and concerns me and my well being? YES. When I sit, and am still and centred, I always know what decision would leave me feeling the most at peace, or the most fulfilled.

You know you better than anyone, and when you give yourself the time, I truly believe you’ll find that all the answers you need for you are already right there within you. Give yourself some credit!

 

All my love,

Angel xo

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Forgive everyone, including yourself

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Dear Friend,

How are you? I hope you are well. I’d love to hear how things are going with you. As for me, I’m pleased to say I’m really working on experiencing life as a joyous dance. And because of this, my low days don’t seem so low. It puts everything into a more peaceful perspective. Something else that’s really cool is when I see that I have a chance to really put one of my affirmations into practice. Sometimes these chances come and go without me realising it. The one I got to consciously put into practice recently was, “I forgive everyone, including myself.”

For some time now I’ve agreed with the adage that forgiving is more for you than the other person. That it releases you from whatever hurt and hate you may be holding on to, and that it isn’t about absolving the other person of whatever they may have done that hurt you. But the concept of forgiving everyone was a little crazy to me when I first read it. Everyone?! But again, if forgiveness is more for me than the other person, then yes. Everyone. It makes sense.

The really revolutionary part of it for me, however, was the idea of forgiving myself. Whoa. I’d been so used to judging myself harshly that even with the other affirmations I’d been working on, this didn’t click intuitively. I had to read it to really see how necessary it is. And if I’m forgiving everyone then that should include me, right? Right.

So for you, as you work on being your highest self, realise that sometimes you will act less than satisfactorily by your own standards. And in those moments (if you catch yourself), or after those moments (if you don’t), forgive yourself. Know that change is a process and it isn’t always easy and that’s perfectly fine. Forgive yourself. Release your disappointment in yourself. And keep dancing.

 

All my love,

Angel xo

 

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Everyone is Always Helpful

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Dear Friend,

When I was younger I used to expect the worst. No matter where I was, my mind would take me to the most horrifying/embarrassing possibilities it could. I don’t know why this happened. It still does sometimes. Then I read somewhere about how our thoughts are not as intangible as I, well, thought. They become energy, or vibrations, that radiate from us all the time and they affect the kind of energy/vibrations we get back.

Any time I needed to ask someone for help, I assumed they’d say no, so I began by being on the defensive and, more often than not, they’d say no. How could I be surprised? I was never surprised that they said no, or that embarrassing things happened, because of course I expected it. Deep in my spirit, I believed the world was an unfair place and that everyone was out to get everyone, especially me.

This simple affirmation that I learned – everyone is always helpful – is the basis for every other self-work I do. It’s how I started my journey: by changing how I viewed the world. When you think about it, that’s a massive undertaking, changing your world-views. Which do you tend to believe? That everyone is out to get you or that everyone is always helpful? Whichever it is, are you happy with things as they are?

Just some things to think on.

 

All my love,

Angel xo

 

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I Experience Life as a Joyous Dance

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Dear Friend,

I’m a bit indecisive at times. What this often translates to is me hesitating for a long time while I deliberate the pros and cons of whatever it is I’m putting off. Eventually what happens is I’m forced, one way or another, to make a decision or take some kind of action. And I’m sure you’ve guessed by now that I’m going to give you an example of just that very phenomenon. And you’d be right.

Up until a week ago, I’ve had a bit of a bad run. First, a guy I’d been dating ended our relationship rather unceremoniously a couple weeks ago. I was shocked, hurt, angry, and confused to tell you truth. He had sworn everything was great right up until he ended things. I felt his reasons were unjustified and I hated that he denied me the opportunity to defend myself. Then I was embarrassed, because while it was very ‘uncool’ to break up with someone the way he did, being the person on the receiving end felt so… pathetic. I tried to be grateful for all of it: for the relationship while it lasted and also for the fact that it was over. But I was still furious and hurt.

Shortly after that, I was offered a contract to teach ESL (English as a Second Language) abroad. Perfect timing, right? No excess baggage to worry about. But upon reading the contract, the location being offered was in a remote location two hours away from the city I’d been promised. Having experienced the isolated-foreign-city lifestyle once before, and having expressed early on in the process that I did not want to go through it again, I turned down the contract (of course after having posted in celebration on social media). I felt I’d been bamboozled. One more disappointment and, due to my hasty posting, one more embarrassment. It got harder to remain positive; harder to be grateful, but I tried. I tried to put away my anger and replace it with faith. What I was really doing, though, was covering up my anger in an attempt to cope and appear as though I was handling everything ‘well.’

On Monday, as I was making a dash to answer the door for a friend, I felt a ‘pop’ in my calf. I had pulled a muscle or two and now was forced to move incredibly slowly, painfully, and deliberately. (Laying still with my leg elevated, however, was painless… There’s a message in that somewhere.) At this point I was angry. So during my friend’s visit, as we chatted and caught up with each other, I proceeded to just unload how angry I was with the Universe for throwing all this stuff at me. She bought me a drink to help distract me (thanks Jess), but it didn’t work as well as I’d hoped. After she went home, I realised that I was more upset with myself for having created this reality with my negative, sometimes subconscious, thought patterns. Plus I was unhappy with the general direction of my life.

That was it. I knew I had to change something, because now my mental anguish was manifesting itself physically and I had – quite literally – hurt myself. So I referred to Louise Hay, as I often do. In one of her books she writes of one affirmation to deal with issues in our muscles. “I experience life as a joyous dance.” Well, I certainly had not been feeling very joyous about my life. And that was precisely the problem. This affirmation points to a great analogy – life as a dance! I’ve never heard of a dance that only goes forward. They go forward, backward, side-to-side, even up and down and in dizzying circles sometimes. But my general attitude toward dancing is that it’s fun! I enjoy it and I feel good doing it and I never get concerned when things go wonky. In fact, half the time they’re supposed to go wonky. The other half of the time, you just fold it into the rest of the dance and it sometimes make the dance even better. Maybe it creates a new dance altogether!

So there it is. Not quite a happy ending, but for me a bit of a relief. When things go a little sideways, or even backwards, you don’t need to feel as though something’s gone wrong. The reality is, that’s just how things go. And if that’s just how things go, then it can’t be wrong, can it? It just means you’re doing exactly what you’re supposed to be doing, all the time. There is no reason you and I can’t view, experience, and enjoy life the same way we do dance (or music, or art, or stories come to think of it)… and every reason why it’s such a good idea. It’s time and energy much better spent, don’t you think?

All my love,

Angel xo

 

Dance!

Dance!