You Might As Well Go For It -or- Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway

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Dear Friend,

I wonder, have you ever opted out of something for fear of failure or embarrassment? Have you ever chosen to take no action on something you love/want to try/believe in because you don’t believe it will make a difference? I know I have, several times. I have had a HUGE fear of failure. Mostly because, for me, failure is embarrassing. And I hate to be embarrassed. Being embarrassed means being vulnerable and, at the centre of it all, this is what I hate the most -being vulnerable.

Anyway, I wanted to ask, because if you’re anything like me (at least in this regard) then it’s something you struggle with or are working on. Going for it even through the fear isn’t easy, but what’s the alternative? Playing it safe by doing something you don’t want to do?

You’ve seen the clip floating around of Jim Carrey giving a speech at a graduation ceremony. He talked about how his dad wanted to be Comedian, but played it safe to provide for his family. He ended up being laid off and struggling to find new work. Jim said in his speech his lesson from that was “you can fail at what you DON’T want, so you might as well take a chance on doing what you love!” (check out the clip here)

That has stuck with me better than anything else when it comes to my fear of failure. I’d thought that if I played it safe, then I wouldn’t be doing what I loved, but at least I’d be able to pay the rent. Haha not so! When you see that failure may come regardless of what you choose to do, it becomes much more obvious what choices to make.

I hope that made sense. But if we reframe our fears of failure and see that we can “fail” at anything, but we can also succeed immensely, then it’s easier to make the choice to do what we love.

Here’s hoping that you go forward and do what you love. Give it your best effort, even through the fear.

All my love,
Angel xo

 

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Take a Look Back Today

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Dear Friend,

You know that feeling you get when you aren’t sure of what you’re doing… Or you feel you aren’t doing anything useful with your life?

Take a look back. Look at how far you’ve already come. YOU did that! You may have gotten help, but help is nothing if you don’t use it.

Today let’s just pause and take a look back. Look at what we’ve accomplished. Look at all the damaging behaviours, people, and self talk we’ve left behind. Look at the wonderful connections we’ve made. Look at what we’ve learned and how we’ve improved.

You’re doing fine. No, better than fine. You’re doing great! Take a moment to just revel in that before you go back to thinking about today and tomorrow. Celebrate who you are and what you’ve done and where you’ve been and how you’ve grown.

It’s all amazing. And so are you.

All my love,
Angel xo

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Your Life is Divinely Guided

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Dear Friend,

Do you ever have those moments of intense confusion? You don’t know what you’re supposed to be doing with your life and the fact that you don’t know drives you crazy. I can’t be the only one… I hope!┬áSometimes they cause me to panic. As if I have to have it all figured out by now and if I don’t then my whole life moving forward will be a failure. A really helpful affirmation I say in times like that is, “My life is divinely guided and I am always going in the right direction.”

Now, I recognise this may not be your cup of tea (not everyone believes in a higher power). But I believe that we are all guided by a higher power (of many names) and an inner power and that both of these powers are divine. Yes, you and your intuition are an element of The Divine. Your ‘knowing’ (remember my last letter?) is every bit as deep and powerful as any external power, because really everything is connected. Everything. The trick is to pay attention and have faith in that guidance.

It always comes back to faith, doesn’t it?

 

All my love,

Angel xo

Only Right Action Takes Place in my Life

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Dear Friend,

I’ve always looked forward to Sundays, because they often end up being my rest day. Now I also look forward to them, because I get to write to you. I didn’t realise how much these letters help me, just in the writing of them. So, I hope they help you too.

For as long as I can remember, having too many options has filled me with anxiety. What if I make the wrong decision? What if I wait too long to decide and the best option for me ceases to be available? What if there’s some other option I’m not seeing? So many ‘whatifs’ to deal with. Something that has helped me is this affirmation I learned from Louise Hay (I hope she doesn’t mind me referencing her here): Only right action takes place in my life.

What that means to me is that no matter what I choose, it will be the right choice, so long as I’m listening to my inner wisdom. I know there are times when I have to do some research, seeking external knowledge so I can make an informed decision. When I have as much information as I can get, though, my intuition still makes the final call. This affirmation gives me the confidence to do that. Know what I mean? It’s also great in helping me trust myself.

I wanted to share this with you today, because I’m at a time in my life now where there are a few decisions I have to make myself and all the ‘whatifs’ are popping up again. I thought you might be going through this too. You might not be, but it’s good to know for the times you do have to make tough decisions, don’t you think?

 

All my love,

Angel xo

 

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